We adults are unaware of our daily behavior. We don't even remember that we were once told how to achieve them. Without knowing we have learned these behaviors and now it is almost automatic practice for us.
It is really hard to teach something that we think we have learned naturally. Some might think that a child would also learn naturally one day, like we did.
"Independence" for most of the people is something like that. Compared to this the memories that we have from school of learning to "read, write and calculate" or of exercises like "vaulting horse, climbing on the horizontal bar or jumping rope" seem far more difficult.
As a matter of fact, we encounter "independence" very early in our lives. It is not that we didn't learn it but that we have learned it but do not remember.
A child's first lesson in life is the "independence" which
becomes the base of their whole life.
Children with an impairment of positive learning have characteristics
of needing special guidance. If you think that the child will start learning,
There would be things that they cannot do even when they are grown up, but when a child is trying hard, it is easy for others to help.
<2> "But my child does not listen
to me. If I try to ask him/her to sit down on the toilet, it will cause
a big fuss!"
However, there are lots of things that children should learn even if they do not like it. We are not saying that the parents should endure the crying child day after day. But there should be some techniques for reducing the level of reluctance.
"Little by little"
In this example, some parents are reaching the goal by warming the toilet
and letting the child play with a favorite toy while he/she is sitting
<3> "No matter how many times I tied,
my child cannot make it. It is the same thing every day."
If a child is not good at finger manipulation, change the object into easier shape. If a child cannot understand the process, point out the places that can guide them. If he/she cannot understand the guidance, teach them with the body movement. It is also important to have persistence in teaching how much force should be used for that purpose. When "persistence and inventive devices" work together with the condition of the child, the possibility for improvement will become much higher.
Believe in the child, and let's make a step.
■From monthly journal "The Developmental Education"